Picking up Happiness a holistic approach to life

 I am so glad now , the reason is I was not able to tune myself to connect to the correct frequency and that happened suddenly when I was watching you tube channel few days back, one star celebrity was  sharing his experience , he met one poor family living happily and without any stress . Very interesting in today’s days with less money and without stress how can someone be so happy. To my curiosity I watched the entire episode and let it go off . The topic was back of my mind settling down . It is my habit of giving time to myself so that if something has to come out,  it will certainly come out with positivity. 

He was talking about one farmer family living in small cottage . He told that he met them while he was doing outdoor shoot . They invited him to visit their home , so he went and spent time with them and were chatted over a cup of tea and then he came to know many things about that family, he was honestly telling although he is happy , the farmer family is more happy than his . what he had exactly said was इतनी खुशीया थी उनके घर , की इतनी खुशी मेरे घर पर भी नहीं. So khushi hoti kya hai . What I found from that discussion is real happiness doesn’t have to do anything with money. Happiness is a state of mind and art of living.

What is the reason of their (farmer family) happiness . Not so difficult for any farmer to know the value of happiness than anyone else . Or in other words who will know the value of happiness better than a farmer who is dependent on situations beyond his control most of the time . He is the one who faces number of challenges while taking a crop (I m talking about a farmer who is yielding for feeding his family and not yielding commercially).

Here we need to understand their simplistic way of doing things very religiously and with 100% efforts. Keeping faith on their god who is making things happen for them .  Hence they are happy and without stress because of their unconditional faith and that is the key to their happiness . 

Same principle we can apply in our urban lifestyle . What bothers us a lot on and off is mainly all small  small things happening around . How big our challenges are , how bigger our struggles are, how biggest our problems are we can fix it all of them by keeping  patience , ignoring humiliation, letting off errors , forgiving mistakes , pausing off reactions, putting focus on our goals,  staying calm, developing better habits, identifying and improving our strengths and many more 

One of my friend philosopher said happiness is by choice. Very nice thought. In a given situation choice remains with us of all the time and we have to choose it , the one who picks up happiness becomes happy in every situation. Happiness Is all around us however we can’t see to it like other tangibles , we have to find it and pluck it as much as we can and to find it we have to have openness in our approach then we accept more easily . Once we become easy towards situations things become easier for us and then what remains with us is pure happiness. 

Stay happy 😃 

P. S. -  My expressive thoughts are solely my own perception to look at the things which are present in front of me and my intention to write them is just to support and channelise readers thought process which could be different from mine. Never mind and I am more than happy to see them finding their own path way to make life’s journey successful. 

With all my best wishes to all .

April 12,2025

“Give me some sunshine, Give me some rain,I wanna take a chance & live my dream again!“

Brighter is the day like it was yesterday and tomorrow it will be the same again like it was today.

Every day it starts with rising sun and ends up with sun set. Her ( Mother earth ) revolving around the sun giving us day and night. Day and night gives us one whole day and these whole days gives us weeks and thereafter we get months and then years which we are living. Our existence here is time bounded and irony of it is no one knows to what extent it is bounded. In a sense it is good that we don’t think about the time that we are having in our hands, we just go on spending it (I am not using the term “utilizing” here) the way we want. Abundantly, plenteously or more than enough time we have in our younger age. Remember those days, one call from friend and we are ready to go for outing no matter where and when.

Getting up, schooling, college, studying and being surrounded with friends is the ultimate worldly happiness of the life for us that time. We all have lived this life to the fullest since we have enough time, it is good in a sense that we don’t think much about the time we are spending.

Once the education is complete we catch hold of a job and tie a knot to the time and then starts juggling with the time. We all live this part of the life also to the fullest since we have no time to see how much time we have. It is good in a sense that we don’t think much about the time we are spending.

A time comes to settle in the life and then every activity fits into compartments of time, scheduling, stick to that schedule and go on and on and on hopping to get more and more to fulfill commitments of life becomes ultimate goal of life. (here the intension is to give facts of life and not to justify right and wrong ).

Then what happens to us and suddenly we realize that, “oh no I have wasted my time in doing nothing”.

Actually we are the same who we were, enjoying teenage, spending time and money, enjoying adulthood in buying & building secured future,  then what’s go wrong. Everything looks to be fair and fine yet something is pinching within. Either our expectations from our life reached to a point where nothing more remains to achieve or our feeling of , is this what I wanted in my life , is this the life for which I ran for  so many years, did I really succeed in life, is this the real happiness. At this age of life most of us start thinking on same line. May be spiritual thoughts started budding at this point of age (scientific studies can throw light on this ). This shift in thought process of finding eternal happiness creates emptiness as we don’t have any go back  and get the lost dreams  and then we say “Give me some sunshine, Give me some rain, I wanna take a chance & live my dream again!!  “

If this is the story in general, then what happens with successful people. How do they pursue their dreams without asking for a chance . Do they come from Mars or Venus . No not at all, they are one among us only. They are like us only, schooling , college and friends & community , same in all aspects. Only difference is they are very very   passionate about what they want to do in the life. The awakening point comes to their life much earlier than other human beings. There are many factors behind their success it could be in the form of parents support, their talent versus early age struggling life they have gone through. Most important part is the self-realization.

Self-realization is that state of mind where your insights are very clear & then conscious efforts being taken to fulfill any of the dream will be rewarding like striking sun shine and showering rain and there won’t be any space for taking a chance to live their dreams again.

Being successful is subjective but being satisfied is in possession of every hand so however late we realize we have to take a chance and have to live our dreams and move on creating our brighter tomorrow and at the same time have to pass on the glimpses of awareness to the generation next and help them to understand their dreams timely so that they should not missed out any chance.

March 25 , 2025

 

“ River and her banks “

 

‘ ये राते ये मौसम नदी का किनारा ये चंचल हवा ! ‘

River always denotes onscreen magnificent romance of Bollywood films of golden era. 

On screen it is so beautiful to see delightful evening , a village full of  green and few  scattered cottages and mid of the screen a river flowing across . Wow who will not fall in love of this cinematic visuals as well as imagining himself in place of hero or herself in place of heroine. Most ever promising scene of every second film of those days when “ Jay Jawan Jay Kisan “ was the nation’s greatest slogan. 

In Our traditions we treat rivers as goddesses. She flows down from her origin and through out her journey until she meets sea , she takes care of neighbouring flora and fauna. She is the example of selfless offering. Our country is entangled by many such rivers. To name a few In north we have Ganga, Yamuna & Saraswati. In east we have Bramhaputra. In west we have Narmada, Krishna , Godavari and in south we have Kaveri, Sharavati, Tungabhadra. These are just few among many others. If you see , every river has her own individuality. A mystic story behind her presence on this earth. She carries all emotions those every woman has. When she starts flowing from her origin she is like giggling small girl dancing around running so fast, slowly when she comes down to a plateau  she start swirling around like beautiful adolescent singing song for someone who is yet far away waiting to greet her.  Slowly she becomes wider encompasses nearby area , make it affluent in all aspects be it plantation, be it farming & agricultural, be it animal husbandry etc. it’s like now she has almost done with her duties and ready to surrender herself in arms of her beloved and flow together.

What she teaches us. Now the title comes in  the picture. River  always flows between two of her riverbanks. Yes you are correct. Although she has abundant to give she neither overdo nor overlook . She follows her same path ages and ages . What kind of discipline she shows. It’s really difficult to do and redo the same things over a period with same positive energy and vibrantly and consistently. Shall we not bow down and touches her feet like we do to our mother. 

So next time whenever you go any riverside just realm yourself , bow down and try to reassure yourself of being like River and her banks.

March 6th, 2025

Cutting shutting weed out unwanted

No matter you wander around hours and hours, (here wandering is related to your mind and all kinds of swings). Eventually what matters is exactly for what you are wandering around and are you aware of it . If you are well aware of the reason then my dear friend you please go and get what you are in search of and that  to at the earliest and all my best wishes to you . This write up is not for you at all. Now what about those who are unaware of the reason behind this wandering . It happens with many of us and most of the time. We live in such a time bound world running around the clock doing routine activities so meticulously that we don’t even realise that we don’t have time to listen to our own self instead we just keep on wandering around. Physically we just keep on moving from one place to other and most of the time it is between home and work place. Are we really in present or just keep  wandering around. Really need to think . Why this happens to us. The actual hierarchy that is assumed to be the ideal for any human being is comprises of basic needs like food shelter then love and family and then financial stability and other achievements . However it is observed that same has no relevance in present circumstances and we all majorly running behind the material happiness or rather we are compelled to do what everyone around us doing.

What we want from our own living (Oh my god what a question to answer ). Have we ever asked ourselves or we don’t want to speak out about it although our heart say hear me out , please for god sake hear me out. We are so much so behind name , fame, money, power and what not. It is so fascinating that we go on and on and we don’t know how to return back to the base . 

I remember my school days when Mali use to come once in 15 days and check all the plants . He use to always see whether leaves are becoming yellowish or soil is getting dry and many other things, which were beyond my understanding those days .The foremost thing he used to do was to remove the weed that started growing around the main plant .
Now when I think over , why was he weeding regularly. The answer is cutting the unwanted weed saves the plant from perishing and encourages the growth of the plant. Very simple and every single person knows it. Same is applicable to our mind. Our mind is very strong but we keep cultivating many many unwanted things around it and let it go wandering through. This is really unhealthy for our own growth. Mind also requires nourishment and it is possible only if we weed out unwanted and put positive thoughts in small small dosages and inculcate inner happiness which in turn will control meaningless wandering.
So always remember- cutting shutting weed out unwanted .

February 26, 2025. 

"Get growing deep down"

 No wonder if you think what this combination is all about or what synergy do they carry or some may ask my intention to embrace the  difference between two opponents titled up. 

When we say growing it is but natural we are talking about the growth  factor and it  is most of the time perpendicular. Sometimes it is lateral but in that case it is popularly known as expansion. Coming back to the subject , let’s go and find out some magical facts those are seen around us . Now I must take you down deeper and deeper where tiny small you living in your heart. 

We all have heard childhood stories from grannies, nannies that once upon a time there was a tall and handsome prince of a kingdom and so on . What was her intention that time to narrate these stories of wonders. It wasn’t just passing her time with you , it wasn’t just make you sit quietly at one place but it was her wisdom to make you able to think and understand the logical gamut behind these teetotallers when you grow taller. It is the most simplest form of gaining knowledge so it was starting of your mental growth.

Second magical unfolding for you is to recollect your father or grandfather  taking you for bicycle ride. Oh ahaha what a lovely smile on your face ( for me too 😀of course it’s not just writing but it’s a pouring my feelings which I have had and treasured since then ). Where was I  , yes what was his intention that time . Certainly it was to make you stronger physically. That was the correct time of your physical growth. 

As we started growing physically and mentally , then there came the academic growth, financial growth . Every human being coping up as per Maslow’s theory of needs and every time it was proved that your basics or fundamentals should be so strong and deeply studied to achieve your goals in life. Nothing comes so easy or drops down from the sky . You have to go deeper and deeper in search of gain.

The biggest example of all the findings lies in the nature is green tree. Every single tree  however small or big has immense power to fight against all adverse climatic situations. Their roots go deeper and deeper in search of water nutrients and that going deep down make them so strong that they grow above ground almost equal height beneath .

The moral of the story is one has to thorough in life and there is no short cut to path to success. So remember every time ……

“ Get growing deep down “

February 18, 2025